Learning to Love My Body

This month’s focus on gratitude has made me shift my focus to an unlikely source: my body. I am a sexual assault survivor and a former anorexic. Like many women, I hate my body. A big part of that is a very common response to sexual assault. When I was in therapy, my therapist had me do an exercise where I focused on a part of my body that I could say I loved, and I would express gratitude for that part of my body. I have never worked my way up past my toes.

Eating disordered behavior was also a response to the sexual abuse I experienced as a child. When I was a teenager, my goal in life was simply to disappear. Fortunately, I made some good friends in high school who helped me discover feminism and come out of my shell. Feminism has helped me learn to love my intellect, my sense of humor, and my passion for activism. But I am still learning to love my body. [Read more...]

Love Your Body; October 21st

october 21, 2009

October 21, 2009

Since October 21st is “Love Your Body Day,” I thought it would be good to focus this post on loving your body, loving sex and loving the pleasure that your body can give you (or you can give your body).

Every year, on “Love Your Body” day, I try to put all of my own body anxieties aside and really appreciate my body and all that it does for me. I have done many programs, events, and articles in honor of this day focusing primarily on body image, advertising and standards of beauty. But this year, I want to celebrate the day in a different way. Especially considering my role with Feminists for Choice as a “sexpert,” I want to celebrate my body, your body and SEX for EVERYBODY. So here goes…

My body is curvy, voluptuous, pale, overweight and mostly healthy. I worry about it all the time. I obsess over the rolls, flaws and imperfections. I worry about the exercise I always put off, the food I crave and the way my clothes fit. I would say that that one in every five minutes of my day is spent thinking about my body or food or both. I work on this issue and realize that some of the problem is societal, some is the result of my eating disorder, and some is intense scrutiny caused by the never ending barrage of messages from the media. [Read more...]