What to give a woman!

This quote has been circling Facebook with people liking and commenting on it. Because of sharing, reposting, and those other tricky Facebook features, we do not know for certain where it originated from, but it seems as if attribution is to be given to Erick S. Gray. The quote points to women and domesticity in a way that is a little off-putting to us even though this might not be the intent of the writer.

“Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit!”

“If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby” – given that all women want children and are able to conceive. Statistically speaking, a woman might “give you a baby”, but she is usually the one to take on most of the responsibility of childcare.

“If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home” – because the assumption is that women are the homemakers, the domestic ones who always enjoy cleaning, doing laundry and fiddling with home décor. Just give her a house, and she will make it a home.

“If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal” – why not make your own dinner?

“If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart” – often times it takes much more than a smile.

Interestingly, the quote says nothing about respect, equality, or teamwork when in a relationship. The last part of the quote points to women’s “vindictive” and “sly” nature. “So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit!” Perhaps women are tired of being given “crap” since they are so busy raising children, being homemakers, making dinner and in return only receiving a smile!

The More Things Change, the More They Stay the Same

As mentioned in previous posts, I have been cleaning out my garage and came across a wide selection of National Geographic magazines. As also mentioned before, I am very interested in how women and men (as well as girls and boys) are portrayed in the media. Therefore I have been looking through some of the magazines and found interesting examples of gender roles, stereotypes and gendered expectations.

As many of the magazines are from the 1950s to about 1980s, they may seem irrelevant, outdated and not so significant when discussing today’s issues. But it is interesting how much things can change, yet still stay the same. Take for example women’s portrayed roles in advertisements, something I am very passionate about. To summarize overall research; women are portrayed in more roles outside the home now than previously (including positions of power), but the sexual objectification of women in advertisement is also greater now (and more explicit) than it has ever been before. Basically, women are now “allowed” greater freedom in terms of life choices, but at the price of relentless sexual objectification.  [Read more...]