A few nights ago, I gave a new acquaintance a ride home after a party, and before I knew it I was in the middle of an abortion heart-to-heart. I felt a little out of my element talking about abortion with (a) a man (b) a man I didn’t know well and (c) a man I had a lil’ bit of a crush on.
He talked about living with his first love and girlfriend for a few years, and then breaking up over an abortion that he was against. It was clear that even though it had occurred some time ago, he was still broken up about it. I asked if the experience upset him so much because he was staunchly pro-life in general, or in love with his girlfriend and ready for a baby. He answered he, ‘just knew what was right’. So, yeah I don’t really know what that means.
Help me out choice feminists! I don’t really have a good angle on talking to men who have experienced abortion and were not in agreement with their partner. Any experience with this? I was tempted to say ‘imagine how much worse it would be if you didn’t have any say in the matter and the baby was in your uterus’…but I didn’t want to sound flippant. Besides he didn’t at all question her ultimate right to choose or stand in her way, just at a loss for where he belonged in the situation.
Also, would you date a pro-life dude? My policy has always been N-O, but I find this guy pretty terrific in every other capacity….help!
Kate is a public policy expert with a vintage dress obsession.