Why being anti-porn does not mean you’re being pro-feminist

I have been aware of the “Anti-Porn Men Project” Movement for quite a while, but it wasn’t until I went to the UK National Feminist Conference FEM 11 that I actually sat through a discussion with its representative. And I have to say, what I heard was a little annoying, to put it mildly.

I understand that these guys mean well and they probably really believe their mission statement, by which making porn unavailable would result in “tackling both violence against women and wider gender inequality, as well as an important personal issue in the lives and relationships of many people.” However, my problem with being anti-porn stems from my strong allergic reaction to two things: patronizing adult people by “knowing what’s better for them” and discounting of women’s sexuality and its varied forms of expression which commonly results in a “I don’t believe there are women who actually enjoy it” attitude.

No one – man or woman – should be forced to any sexual act they do not want to perform and sex work should happen in safe conditions and be adequately remunerated. But I can see no problem whatsoever in adult females and males consenting to sexual acts which get filmed and distributed for money, if the participants are treated with dignity and respect. [Read more...]

Is Sex Work a Viable Job Path?

A friend of mine and I recently got into a debate about the messages we send to children about their career aspirations. My friend said that her main goal in life is to teach her kids to stay off the street corner and stay off the pole. I told her that I didn’t have a problem with sex work, and that if my hypothetical daughter wanted to make money giving hand jobs when she grew up, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. My friend was a little appalled at my point of view – and I’m guessing I won’t be getting any babysitting requests from her.

Let me start out by saying that there is a big difference between people who are sex slaves and people who consensually enter the sex trade. My argument is not that I would force anyone into prostitution. My argument is that sex work is a legitimate profession for the folks who choose it.

I am also not saying that kids should be sex workers. I’m talking about adults in the sex industry. I am decidedly against child pornography and little girls giving non-consensual blow jobs to grown ass adults who should learn how to keep their peepers to themselves. [Read more...]

Hookers for Jesus: More Than Just a Catchy Title

Vintage Logo of Annie Lobert's Hookers for Jesus ministryEarlier this week, a woman named Annie Lobért appeared on the Today show to discuss her organization, Hookers for Jesus. Lobért began working as a prostitute when she was 19 years old, and spent 16 years as both a prostitute and high-class escort. Lobért founded Hookers for Jesus in 2006, with the goal of helping women leave the sex work industry; the organization is based in Las Vegas, where it operates a safe house for women and teens who need a place to live while they are transitioning out of the industry.

Prostitution is a serious problem, both in the United States and worldwide.  Too often, sex workers are abused and mistreated by pimps, clients, or both, and there is often little recourse for those seeking help. Lobért claims that she was raped and abused repeatedly while working as a prostitute and escort, and says that many of her friends in the industry have had similar experiences.

Lobért is the first to admit that it’s very difficult for women to leave the sex-work industry – she candidly says that she “relapsed” several times – which makes the group’s success stories all the more compelling. To combat this problem, the range of services offered at the transitional house is fairly comprehensive; residents are offered professional counseling, nutrition and fitness instruction, and life-skills training, among other services.

With a name like Hookers for Jesus, of course, the question of faith is put front and center. [Read more...]