Feminist Explains Connection Between Parenting, Body Image, and Video Games

Feminist Conversations is a weekly column here at Feminists for Choice, where we talk to activists from across the interwebs to find out what feminism means to them. Today we’re talking to Chris Cruz-Boone, a life long geek and a professor in the Department of Communications at California State University, Bakersfield. She lives in Bakersfield with her partner John & their children Inara and Nathan. She is teaching her first Introduction to Video Games studies course in the winter.

1. When did you first call yourself a feminist, and what contributed to that decision?
The first day of my first Women Studies course the professor asked, “If you consider yourself a feminist, please raise your hand.” I was in the front row & when I looked behind me I realized I was the only person in a room of 45 people that had raised my hand. That moment was the first time I realized that I called myself a feminist and learning more about the feminist movement has only committed me further to my position.

2. What does feminism mean to you?
My initial understanding of feminism was influenced by the girl power movement. Media icons like Xena and Buffy made me feel both powerful and kick-ass for being a woman. Early on for me this is what feminism meant.

After reading bell hooks, and more recently Jessica Valenti, I have reframed feminism to be about more than kicking ass; although being kick-ass will always be part of feminism for me. Feminism is a belief in recognizing and challenging the oppression of all people. Feminism is not just fighting for women’s rights but because of historic and institutional oppression women are often at the center of unfair policies and mindsets. For me, feminism is not just a mindset but a way of life. [Read more...]

The Myth of Mom

Police: Pa. Mom Killed Her Babies, Kept Bones in Closet

(Oct. 26) — A Pennsylvania woman secretly gave birth to at least four babies, killed the newborns to hide an extramarital affair and hid their remains in a closet, authorities say.
(Mara Gay, AOL News, Oct 26)

This isn’t the kind of news anyone, including me, wants to see on a pro-choice website. This isn’t the kind of news anyone wants to see anywhere. It’s bad enough that opponents of choice have claimed the rhetorical high ground by dubbing themselves “Pro-Life.” (Which on its face and drained of its ideological juice is about as controversial as being “Pro-Peace” or “Pro-Love.”)

And let’s not forget that slogan: “Abortion is murder.” Pretty darn effective at stifling debate. It’s black and white, little room for wiggling. And even if there were, arguments about fetal viability and the rights of the mother are bound to sound a bit hollow when stacked against the ponderous moral weight of “murder.” It’s one of those commandments, and all …

The risk of mentioning a case like this is that the anti-choice camp will draw a moral equivalent between these particular crimes committed by this particular woman and the termination of any pregnancy by any “unnatural” means. (I’d like to believe that most anti-choicers wouldn’t blame a woman for her own miscarriage, but with recent arrests and legislation they’re not making it easy.)

But the risk is worth taking if it means chipping the tiniest chink in the fantastical ideal of motherhood that permeates our culture. It’d be hard to argue that this woman was “born” to be a mother. Or that her actions were “natural.” Of course, the same could be said of Medea, the figure depicted above. But could anyone truly argue that these women were neither nor both?

Respecting women—and a woman’s right to choose—means accepting that women are neither good or evil or any other simple all-inclusive classification. We are united by gender. But we each are our own individual with our own life and eccentricities. The more we remember this, the better off we’ll all be.

Poverty and Choice

954858_no_money_1Last night I had the pleasure of reading Jamie Whyte’s Crimes Against Logic: Exposing the Bogus Arguments of Politicians, Priests, Journalists and Other Serial Offenders. It really only took me a couple of hours to finish it–despite such important content, it is very accessible and even made me laugh out loud. Its a great book. Everyone should read it. But I digress.

One of the topics covered in the book is British poverty rates and the ways that they are used by politicians and other groups to advance certain agendas. Basically, he is arguing that British social welfare programs ensure that even the poorest of the poor there aren’t destitute. I would have to know more about the British welfare system to argue with him on this.

But the discussion got me thinking about poverty here. I have said, both in my own posts and in comments to other posts that we will never have real choice unless women can choose to have their children and raise them without fear of a lifetime of poverty and struggle. This country, of course, is nowhere near that point.
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What Should Mothers Really Be Earning?

dollar_signsTry to imagine a job that requires you to get up early in the morning to cook meals, chauffeur and entertain your clients. Once your clients have left the building, you look at the to-do list and find cleaning and administrative paperwork that must be done. Finally, when your clients return for meetings they need you to be their teacher, nurse and sometimes psychologist.  Now imagine that you don’t receive any financial compensation for this job.

Mothers, both working and stay-at-home, perform several job functions and go unpaid for their skill and energy. Salary.com estimates that stay-at-home moms perform tasks that would equal an average income of $122,732 a year and working moms would add $76,184 to their annual earnings.

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