BDSM Can Be What A Feminist Looks Like!

Question of the week:

Is it unfeminist of me if I like to be dominated in the bedroom? Am I selling out the movement if I let my partner tie me up?

Thank you for this excellent question, and let me begin with a resounding NO! It is likely that I will get some push back, and maybe even some strong resistance to this answer. There are some who argue that any thing that could be related to dominance/submission, violence, or physical restriction is inherently unfeminist…while I generally agree with these sentiments, I think that the bedroom is different territory…please hear me out. [Read more...]

Give Me Your Sex: Dom/Sub Relationships

AJ’s question from last week:

Is it healthy to want to be dominated in the bedroom, talked dirty to, even objectified at times? As long as those relations don’t carry into our every day lives, and are only practiced between consenting adults, is it a healthy expression of sexuality?

I just find it sexy to be subordinate in the bedroom. Is it because society has conditioned me to believing this is sexy? Or is it a healthy blurring of the lines between what is and isn’t acceptable during sex?

And here is my response.

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