Comments on: MythBusting: Arguments Against Gay Parents Don’t Add Up http://feministsforchoice.com/mythbusting-arguments-against-gay-parents-dont-add-up.htm Pro-choice and Proud! Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:49:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Mrs. Mastro http://feministsforchoice.com/mythbusting-arguments-against-gay-parents-dont-add-up.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2153 Mrs. Mastro Sat, 17 Oct 2009 00:27:15 +0000 http://feministsforchoice.com/?p=3006#comment-2153 Great post! It always fascinates me that the same arguments used against single mothers are now used against LGBT parents. Particularly since fifty plus years of research data shows that kids raised by single mothers turn out just fine, just as often as the kids of married heterosexual parents, especially once you account for financial strains. As to the kids of gay parents getting teased, that whole argument just pisses me off. If these asshats weren't out spreading lies about LGBT folks, perpetuating stereotypes and CREATING stigma around these relationships, the kids of LGBT folks wouldn't get teased! If having gay parents makes kids gay--which assumes from the beginning that being gay is bad--then how come straight parents raise gay kids? And something else strikes me too--some of my favorite people (and some of the most stable adults I know) have/had really crappy parents of all stripes. Many of the people I know who came from bad situations came from the households of a straight married couple. Yay for exposing the champions of inequality! Great post! It always fascinates me that the same arguments used against single mothers are now used against LGBT parents. Particularly since fifty plus years of research data shows that kids raised by single mothers turn out just fine, just as often as the kids of married heterosexual parents, especially once you account for financial strains.

As to the kids of gay parents getting teased, that whole argument just pisses me off. If these asshats weren’t out spreading lies about LGBT folks, perpetuating stereotypes and CREATING stigma around these relationships, the kids of LGBT folks wouldn’t get teased!

If having gay parents makes kids gay–which assumes from the beginning that being gay is bad–then how come straight parents raise gay kids?

And something else strikes me too–some of my favorite people (and some of the most stable adults I know) have/had really crappy parents of all stripes. Many of the people I know who came from bad situations came from the households of a straight married couple.

Yay for exposing the champions of inequality!

]]> By: Andrea http://feministsforchoice.com/mythbusting-arguments-against-gay-parents-dont-add-up.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2143 Andrea Fri, 16 Oct 2009 19:50:26 +0000 http://feministsforchoice.com/?p=3006#comment-2143 Thanks, my proofreader kind of laughed about the 'champaions of inequality' because it is true. Also, that is a very good point about lgbtq youth in the foster system. It would be great for them to have strong lgbtq role models in the home. Thanks, my proofreader kind of laughed about the ‘champaions of inequality’ because it is true.
Also, that is a very good point about lgbtq youth in the foster system. It would be great for them to have strong lgbtq role models in the home.

]]> By: Petursey http://feministsforchoice.com/mythbusting-arguments-against-gay-parents-dont-add-up.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2137 Petursey Fri, 16 Oct 2009 17:59:50 +0000 http://feministsforchoice.com/?p=3006#comment-2137 Superb well written and honest article !!! Superb well written and honest article !!!

]]> By: freewomyn http://feministsforchoice.com/mythbusting-arguments-against-gay-parents-dont-add-up.htm/comment-page-1#comment-2134 freewomyn Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:26:54 +0000 http://feministsforchoice.com/?p=3006#comment-2134 Another great post, Andrea. I love your phrase "champions of inequality," because that's really what this is about. I totally agree - the foster care system is flooded with kids who need loving homes. Sadly, a good chunk of those kids are LGBTQ themselves. In LA County, it is estimated that 40%-60% of the kids in foster care are queer. In Long Beach alone, 70%-80% of the kids in foster care are queer. Who would provide a more loving home for a queerling than same-sex parents? They know what it's like to struggle with the coming out process, they've made it through the hard times, and they can show queer kids that it's possible to be successful and in a stable home environment. Isn't that what we all want for our kids? Another great post, Andrea. I love your phrase “champions of inequality,” because that’s really what this is about. I totally agree – the foster care system is flooded with kids who need loving homes. Sadly, a good chunk of those kids are LGBTQ themselves. In LA County, it is estimated that 40%-60% of the kids in foster care are queer. In Long Beach alone, 70%-80% of the kids in foster care are queer. Who would provide a more loving home for a queerling than same-sex parents? They know what it’s like to struggle with the coming out process, they’ve made it through the hard times, and they can show queer kids that it’s possible to be successful and in a stable home environment. Isn’t that what we all want for our kids?

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