I recently read a reader’s comment in one of my local magazines, which was titled
“Moms that breastfeed annoy me.” The topic of breastfeeding appears to somehow regularly make the news as many people speak up in different discussions. It is not uncommon to hear how breastfeeding annoys or bothers people and that women should not have their breasts out in public. At the same time, we are bombarded with half-nude pictures of women’s bodies in advertisements, magazines, the news, and even newspapers, which often do not seem to elicit similar discomfort.
This comment was made by a woman complaining about moms breastfeeding at the playground near her apartment, and that she was forced to watch these moms feeding their children every time she looked out the window. She stated that instead of feeding their children in public, these women should go home to breastfeed.
These statements annoyed me on many levels. Breastfeeding is natural, and if you are able to breastfeed it is really beneficial for the child. It can also be complicated to bring bottles with you when you leave the house, and children are often comforted by breastfeeding. It is so limiting to women to have to stay at home, or go back home, in order to feed their children. Small children have to eat very often and it is not like moms who breastfeed whip their breasts out in the open for all to see. Every time I have seen a mother breastfeed, she is always discrete about it. There are tops and bras that make breastfeeding easier and more discrete, and often women will put a blanket over the child, in which case you cannot see anything.
Why breastfeeding was so horrible and annoying to the reader, she did not say. Is it the prospect of perhaps seeing a glimpse of a breast, or is it that women should be in the house when breastfeeding? Surely it cannot be the fact that a child is eating.
That the woman complained that these moms were breastfeeding at the playground comes across as quite strange to me. What better place is there to breastfeed than at a place created with children and parents in mind? Perhaps instead of aiming anger at women who breastfeed in public, people should ask themselves why this bothers them so much and then remind themselves that it is none of their business. A woman breastfeeding her child does not bother me the least bit. The sexualization of women’s breasts in media, however, does.
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Ugh. My instant response is: “people who are disturbed by breastfeeding annoy me.” You’re right that a Victoria’s Secret ad shows more skin than a mom nursing a baby. It’s sad that even women have bought into the cultural message that their bodies are sexual objects and little else.
Really, the best thing about breastfeeding actually was to be able to take the little critters everywhere, not having to drag a hell lot of equiment, worrying about water temperatures or whether I have enough. Just lift the shirt, open the bra, attach the baby, everybody happy.
You’re absolutely right. And this isn’t the first time I’ve heard of people being ‘disturbed’ by breast feeding – I read an article a week or so ago about a woman who breastfed whilst lecturing, and one of the comments under that article actually compared a woman breastfeeding in public to a man exposing his penis in public. There were a whole host of other “it’s not decent” comments that went along with it too. A lot of people really do seem to think nowadays that breasts are primarily sexual objects! The singer Pink talked on the UK show Alan Carr Chatty Man the other night about breastfeeding in public. I thought that was fairly interesting. The clip can probably be found on youtube.
Thank you all for commenting. I totally agree with all the comments. It is disturbing to hear that it is indecent to breastfeed or that it has even been compared to a man flashing his penis!
Actually I find myself very annoyed with breastfeeding in public. In fact, I find it disturbing for some reason. I am absolutely sure it has nothing to do with sexual aspect of breasts. I would be very happy to get rid of this annoyance but I do get enormously annoyed. I am a mother of one child whom I breastfead for one year. But I never did that in public. I am a working mom who does an enormous amount of travel but still I had never find it too problematic to find a place, such as a restroom to feed my baby. There is a special connection between a mother and a baby, but this connection is not there with other people. I try very hard not to be disturbed by public breastfeeding but just can not help it. When I try to reason myself out with the fact that it is natural there is a counter example that comes to my mind: urination or bowl movement. Is it natural? Yes. Would you be disturbed if someone had to do that in public due to the absence of the restroom? Yes. No matter how hard I try I cannot find myself being comfortable in the presence of breastfeeding woman. You would not do something in public that makes people uncomfortable, for example using street language, then why breastfeeding which many people find uncomfortable should be any different?