Graditude for My Mother

In light of our recent focus on gratitude, I’ve given a lot of thought to the people and things I’m most grateful for. I’m very blessed to have my health, a loving family, my husband, and friends who would do anything for me.  But when I really sit and think about gratitude, my mom floats to the top of the pile.

My mother has done so much for — and with — me these past 30 years. She mastered the art of parenting while remaining one of my closest confidants, even during those rocky adolescent years, which is a skill I still admire to this day. From indulging my teenaged obsession with Kurt Cobain (dyed pink hair included), to comforting me during my first heartbreak and nurturing my inner feminist, my mom was, and still is, my biggest cheerleader.

She also taught me a crap load, whether I realized it at the time or not. While it would be impossible to catalog everything she has taught me, I’ve jotted down the top 10 lessons she imparted to her youngest child (me!). In no particular order (well, except for #1):

1. Girls can do anything boys can do. And more often than not, they can do it better.

2. This too shall pass/Everything will be OK (and damn if she wasn’t right every time!)

3. You may not agree with someone’s choice(s), but you can — and should — love and support them anyways.

4. Having a period sucks, but you have to just suck it up and hope your cramps go away sooner rather than later.

5. Love and respect yourself above all else; otherwise, you open the door for others to treat you badly.

6. Treat others how you would like to be treated.

7. Honesty is the best policy. Even if/when it can get you in trouble.

8. The kids who make fun of you during childhood are really just jealous of you. (While this may or may not have been true, it sure made me feel better!)

9. Travel the world, read tons of books, go to graduate school, take that wine tasting class… In short, do everything you’ve ever wanted to do before settling down (if you so choose).

10. Do the best you can do. This applies to all facets of life — school, love, friendships, being human.

So, thanks Mom! You rock and I’m so grateful for you, this day and every day.


  1. Maureen, as I read your post, I couldn’t help but agree. Moms are the best thing in the world! It’s because of the love and support of our mothers that we have the opportunity to grow into strong and competent women. Mothers are a source of life for us. Without our mothers saying yes to us having life, we could never have had the blessings that fill our each and every days. I recently had a birthday and it made me reflect on how grateful I am to my own mother and her choosing to love me, nurture me, care for me, and then to give birth to me and continue that love, nurture, and care! Mothers are courageous, outstanding, and strong women! Thank you for your post of gratitude to your mom and the life she chose to give you!

  2. Maureen, your mom sounds like an amazing womyn – and it’s no wonder you turned out as fabulous as you did.

    My mom is pretty amazing herself. She taught me by example that womyn can do anything they put their minds to, and that you don’t have to wait for anyone else to do something for you. My mom and I certainly had a rough spot during my teen years, and then when I first came out as a big old dyke, but now I consider her one of my best friends.

    Thank goodness for moms!

  3. So, you are saying you’re grateful that your mom chose life?

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