I’ve been having problems with, well… my fanny. I’m the one random gay guy out there in the universe that doesn’t like anal sex. At least that’s the way it seems. It’s usually not a problem because me and whoever I’m dating can do a whole lot of other stuff that doesn’t involve that… but I find that we get to a point where I either have to pony up and get fucked or the relationship is over. My problem is just lack of experience. I had one really bad experience with anal sex and have sworn off it ever since. Any suggestions?
Believe it or not, there are plenty… I repeat: PLENTY of gay men who don’t do it up the butt. As much as pornography, pop culture, or other gay men would like you to think, I don’t believe that anal sex is nearly as ubiquitous as you have been lead to believe. Do a lot of gay men partake in anal sex? Sure. But do all view butt-fucking as the end all be all of their sex lives? No.
So I don’t think you should feel pressured to throw your heels up in the air every time you get a new beau. But it sounds like your struggles with anal sex are more centered around apprehension stemming from a bad experience. Anal sex is like wine. When it’s good, it’s really good. And when it’s bad, it’s really bad. And both get better with time. [Read more...]